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Marriage in Japan is different from Marriage in Your Country｜Japan VLOG



Marriage in Japan is different from Marriage in Your Country｜Japan VLOG

[Vlog] This video shows the life in Japan.

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  3. @cstar6682 on

    I can only speak for myself. I have been married to my husband for 32 years. We met when we were 14 and he is still the love of my life. Two kids, death of parents, cancer, we weathered it all. I am grateful for him and the life we have built together.

  7. @CASpyder on

    SD, This is a timely topic as our older, 33 years old, just got married in Tokyo on October 13–Japan's National Sports Day. Her and husband definitely married for love! They met by chance in an airport lounge at Pudong International Airport, Shanghai–he was flying back from a business trip to Germany and our daughter was on the last leg of an around the globe pleasure trip that took her to three continents in two weeks.

    They really adore and respect each other–it's amazing to see. They are both the same age; he's just four months older. They are both science nerds–she is dentist in Chiba-ken and he is a research chemist in Saitama-ken. They decided to start out their married life in her apartment in northeast Tokyo that she owns.

    I know what your gonna say, SD–it's just the "honeymoon phase" and they'll grow apart as the years move on … But, I'm hoping it's a great, happy, and long marriage for the happy newlyweds! 🙂

  8. @goognamgoognw6637 on

    It always surprises me that you assume Japan is really different but each time i find similarities with Europe, with mariage too. In Europe the mentality "no getting married = pitiful" still exists. Especialy married people are often condescending to people who don't marry.

  9. @goognamgoognw6637 on

    Still i think it's the same elsewhere. No mariage can survive on love, love does not last, it's romance.
    mariage is a cultural institution, it requires society to support it.

  10. @DJ-qn6mh on

    Americans marry for love? Then why is the divorce rate so high? Passionate love is gradually worn away by the daily grind until all that’s left is disgust and impatience toward each other. In the face of marriage, love seems so small. Do you really understand what love is?

    In fact, views on love and marriage are quite similar across East Asian countries. Japanese men usually only ask that their wives stay home and take good care of the family. But in today’s world, where layoffs can happen at any time, isn’t it stressful for a man to support a household on just one income?

    American men are pragmatic when it comes to money. They share housework and childcare duties, but they also expect their wives to have jobs, be financially independent, and contribute to household expenses. Taiwanese men are even more practical, they want their wives not only to earn a high income, but also to be good cooks, manage the home well, and keep up their appearance to remain attractive. And of course, if a wife comes from a good family background, that brings him even more pride in front of his relatives.

    Women in East Asian societies are like commodities – waiting to be priced and sold.

    There are two kinds of sorrow in love: one is when you don’t understand my love; the greater pain is when two people who truly love each other cannot be together.

  11. @Barbaramamato on

    If you wish to have romance in your marriage, invite your wife to dinner. If you would like to have a closer relationship with your child, bring him treats and gifts. Take meals at home sometimes and don't leave your family for the whole weekend while you go hiking alone. You could be making different choices. If your spouse knows you have feelings for her, maybe she would adjust her schedule once in a while. It seems, she is making a huge sacrifice for your child's benefit.

  12. @LaurieMartin-wt6sb on

    I see you saying much the same thing over time without making a move to do anything to improve your situation. You stop into convenience stores every night! Buy your wife a small gift of chocolate or candy or fruit. Leave it on the table for her when you go to work. Buy a small card or postcard and simply write that you hope she has a good day, and leave it for her. Leave her a small pad and pen and ask her to write down anything interesting that she and your son did that day. Buy a single rose and put it in a vase and leave it on the table. Buy a small toy for your son and leave your wife a nice note asking her to let you know how the boy likes his toy. There are hundreds of small ways that you can simply befriend your wife. She is likely as lonely and silent as you are about your marriage. Be DIFFERENT. Dont fear what is or is not appropriate. Reach out and try for happiness.

  13. @ChuP-yd3ff on

    i think woman need to work after married if she has no enough collected money or passive income, this will make her proud of herself and guarantee her life at the beginning of marriage (at least 5-7 y)

  14. @Tuk55555 on

    แต่งงานกับคนไทยซิคะ คนไทยน่ารักแสนดีมีมากมาย ดูดีๆ นะ😂😂

  15. @Tuk55555 on

    สิ่งที่คุณคิดก็คือแนวคิดของคุณ คนแต่ละคนมีความคิดที่แตกต่าง หลักการของชีวิตครอบครัวไม่ค่อยต่างกันนักหรอกในมนุษย์ทุกคน ทุกชาติ มันมีรูปแบบและกฏเกณฑ์ วัฒนธรรมประเพณี แท้จริงพื้นฐานความต้องการจะคล้ายๆกัน

  18. @fujiwaramichaelm6686 on

    Thanks for your valuable "marriage in Japan" video.
    調和のとれた、平和で幸せな家庭を願っています。
    My grandparents were married for 70yrs. Maybe it's because they grew up when old-school values, mind set and environment is not like it is today. My grandpa(23yo & grandma(22yo) had a "forced-arranged marriage". My grandma was only 18yo then. Those days when dating can only be allowed with a chaperone and/or friends along. 4yrs later, grandma's elder sister confronted my grandpa, marry her or no?
    They stayed married until 70yrs later. They started as lovers and went on their eternal journey as lovers & the best of friends.

  19. @emausderratsuchende5447 on

    Those offering well-intentioned advice in the comments section should bear in mind that Japanese culture is completely different from the culture of those offering advice here… hold back on giving advice; you don't have the knowledge of Japanese families and marriages… 😊

  20. @Nefertiti0403 on

    I honestly don’t know what I would eat if I lived in Japan…..know why? I absolutely don’t eat Any Kind of Seafood….I do like fish though and even then I’m picky about my fish. I’d have a rough time that’s for sure

  22. @peterboldt on

    I think you would find marriage in the USA surprisingly the same. There might be differences, but the wife ignoring the husband and treating him as an ATM. Same same

  23. @priyanthaabe4706 on

    Thank you for telling about marriage. We have the same kind of marriage if not more complex than yours. Today humans don't understand why we got males and females, and also about marriage. If they do, it would be much easier as mine. Probably, there would be no body else who would dare and survive a marriage like mine. If you have to live in a country that you don't like to save your marriage, what would you do? Of course, if you cannot survive a marriage, you are a loser. Though we don't understand, it is the number one priority in our design to ensure survival. If you see animals, they would risk their lives to mate. The real problem is, we do not have a government representing our cultural values. It is the enemy of marriage. We are just victims. Time has come to incorporate fitness certification and qualifications determining eligibility as many are not fit to marry. When we do things that we are not fit or qualified for, there are others who suffer. Essentially, there are very specific strengths and skills required to survive a marriage. Else we go broke.

  24. @CrinaPadure-d4s on

    Deci în Japonia căsătoria este de fapt un al doilea job pentru bărbați și un job cu norma întreaga pentru femei. Trist pentru ambele sexe, frustrant. Dar nu pot sa nu ma întreb de ce nu te așteaptă seara soția ta, este asa de obositoare viata în Japonia? Normal ar trebui sa te aștepte, sa te îmbrățișeze măcar pentru ca tu ești cel care muncești pentru toți trei! În estul Europei soțiile au serviciu, au grija de copii, au grija de casă, gătesc mincarea, fac conserve, spală, calcă rufe și au timp și pentru coafor și cosmetica, iar seara de regulă se ia cina în familie. Copii de la virsta de 3,4 ani dorm singuri, au camera lor. Și nu sint asa de obosite ca în Japonia. Probabil de vina este clima sau faptul ca căsătoria este un contract. Rata divorturilor este mai mare Decit în tarile unde căsătoriile sunt preponderent din dragoste. Și atunci cui folosește acest obicei din anii1800?

  26. @saiyajin8384 on

    I’ve been following your videos attentively. I’m Brazilian, son of a Lebanese father, a practicing Buddhist, and I work for an airline — which takes me regularly to Japan, other parts of Asia, and in fact, all over the world. My username comes from my love for Dragon Ball Z, not from Japanese ancestry.I know Japan not just through admiration, but through direct experience. And that’s why I notice nuances beyond the surface. Japan is proud of its culture, discipline, and traditions — and that’s admirable. But it’s also clear that this pride can become a prison. Strict rules, silent pressure, disguised authoritarianism. The cost is high: loneliness, insecurity, depression.More and more Japanese people are speaking openly about this. And many seem to sympathize with the Western way — more spontaneous, more emotionally open — even with its own flaws.In your videos, I sense that tension. The titles speak of pain, divorce, alcoholism. But the images show someone functional, disciplined, following rituals with precision. It makes me wonder: is pain being used as narrative? As aesthetic?Exposing pain is not healing. It’s just exposure. And the support people offer, though it may seem empathetic, is sometimes emotional vanity — people wanting to feel good by helping someone wounded.Japanese culture teaches people to maintain appearances, to play the role. But when faced with reality — at home, with family, with oneself — many can’t sustain it. And we know how that story often ends.So I leave this reflection with respect: there is more strength in showing life as it is, without exaggerating the tragedy. Truth, when cared for, is already enough.

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    あなたの動画を注意深く拝見しています。私はブラジル人で、レバノン人の父を持ち、仏教を実践しています。航空会社で働いており、日本やアジア各地、そして実際には世界中に定期的に訪れています。ユーザー名は、日本の血筋ではなく、ドラゴンボールZへの愛から来ています。日本のことは、憧れだけでなく、実体験を通して深く理解しています。だからこそ、表面だけでは見えない微妙な部分にも気づきます。日本は文化、規律、伝統に誇りを持つ国であり、それは素晴らしいことです。しかし、その誇りが時に「枷」になることもあります。厳格なルール、沈黙の圧力、伝統に隠れた権威主義。その代償は大きく、孤独、不安、鬱へとつながります。最近では、こうした現実を語る日本人も増えてきました。西洋の人々の自然体で感情を表す姿に共感を覚える人も少なくありません。あなたの動画を見ていると、その葛藤が感じられます。タイトルには痛みや離婚、アルコール依存が並びますが、映像には規律正しく、日々の儀式を丁寧にこなす姿が映っています。痛みは、物語として、あるいは美学として使われているのではないかと感じることがあります。痛みをさらけ出すことは、癒しではありません。それはただの「さらけ出し」です。そして、善意で寄せられる支援も、時に「感情の虚栄心」に過ぎないことがあります。傷ついた人を助けることで、自分が良い人間だと感じたいだけかもしれません。日本文化は、外見を保ち、役割を演じることを教えます。しかし、家庭の中で、自分自身と向き合ったとき、多くの人がその役割を維持できなくなります。そして、その結末は、私たちもよく知っています。だからこそ、敬意を込めてこの言葉を贈ります。悲劇を誇張せず、ありのままの人生を見せることにこそ、真の強さがあるのです。丁寧に扱われた「真実」は、それだけで十分なのです。

  27. @marcomorosino6081 on

    You do not have same sex marriage in Japan, don't you ? Me and my husband we married years go here in Italy, under the law of the State, so not in a church, we are both non believers and now we are a happy family after 15 years tight together , I hope you find your way to happiness not just a social contract

  29. @Yuki20339 on

    Это странно. Никогда не понимала, как делать детей с человеком, если его не любишь. К тому же думаю настоящая любовь никогда не проходит, она длится вечно, даже через реинкарнации. Она бессмертная, как душа. Брак по расчёту в принципе думаю везде есть, называется стерпится-слюбится.

  30. @Noemi-pb6zg on

    Es triste anteponer la conveniencia al amor pero es el signo de los tiempos. Me gusta como lo llevas, pareces disfrutar de tus momentos en soledad y compartes con nosotros tus reflexiones. Abrazo!

  31. @horatiuscocles8052 on

    I don't know if you have time for reading comments but I just wanna say you are totally wrong if you think people marry in the West out of love either. The truth is love is only a part of marriage at the beginning. Most people end up hating each other with time but only stay either because they have kids or because life would be too expensive otherwise. Actually the divorce rate is very high in the West too but I guess it's because people don't have children anymore so it doesn't matter if they divorce.

  33. @ildikolorinczy53 on

    あなたがほのめかしていることは、多くの外国人が知らないことだ。成人男性が女子生徒にお金を払うこと…半合法の売買春…女の子だけでなく、男の子も「借りる」ことができること…。私はこうしたことが禁止されている場所で住むことを好む。しかし、別の見方もある。今日、非常に多くの国々、ひいては私たちの世界全体が過密状態にある。人々は互いを必要としているのではなく、邪魔だと感じ合っている。原始人は仲間の助けを歓迎したが、現代ではお互いに要求だけが存在する。結婚は、絶えずお互いに寛大でいることでしか維持できなくなった。真のパートナーはおらず、ただ互いに耐え合う人々がいるだけだ。だが、人口の90%を滅ぼすために、本当に新たな世界大戦の方がましなのだろうか？いいえ、そうではない。武器製造の代わりに、望まれて生まれる子供だけが誕生するよう、無料の避妊手段を提供することは可能なのである。
    What you're alluding to is something many foreigners are unaware of. Adult men paying schoolgirls… The semi-legal prostitution… That not only girls but also boys can be hired… I prefer to live where this is forbidden. But there is another aspect as well. Today, far too many countries are overpopulated, and so is our world. People don't miss each other; they are in each other's way. Primitive humans welcomed the help of any companion, but today there are only expectations directed at each other. A marriage can only survive now if we are constantly forgiving. There are no partners, only tolerated individuals. But is another world war really better, just to let 90% of the population perish? No. However, instead of manufacturing weapons, free contraception could be provided so that only desired children are born.
    Amire célzol, azt sok külföldi nem tudja. Felnőtt férfiak, akik iskoláslányoknak fizetnek… A féllegális prostitúció… Hogy nemcsak lányok, de fiúk is bérelhetők… Jobban szeretek ott élni, ahol ez tilos. De van egy másik szempont is. Ma nagyon sok ország túlnépesedett, így világunk is. Az emberek nem hiányolják egymást, hanem útban vannak egymásnak. Az ősember még örült bármely társa segítségének, ma viszont már elvárások vannak csupán egymás irányában. Egy házasság így már csak akkor maradhat fenn, ha folyamatosan elnézőek vagyunk. Nincsenek társak, csak megtűrt személyek. De jobb tényleg egy újabb világháború, hogy pusztuljon a 90%? Nem, viszont lehetne fegyvergyártás helyett ingyen fogamzásgátlás, hogy csak a kívánt gyermekek szülessenek meg.

  34. @MythicStealth on

    I also used to have a long commute to work (over an hour each way) which I drove. I seldom came home in a good mood then, and never had enough money for a peaceful meal at a restaurant. Hope you're having a good time either way.

  35. @ayeshac.979 on

    Many Westerners feel the same way about their spouses. Their relationships are no better, no worse. People get married for the wrong reasons all the time and stay together for even worse reasons. The divorce rate in the USA is 50%. I think you want people to see Japanese society as uncaring and cold and that it is different in the West. That speaks more to your own personal feelings of alienation because you are unhappy and feel trapped than it does of Japanese society as a whole. Loneliness and isolation are a global epidemic.

  37. @mmca9323 on

    My husband is my very best friend, I couldn't imagine living with someone whom I don't love and respect, we spend so much time together I don't understand separating love from marriage. It'd be impossible, I can't fathom it. I do hope everything for you improves.

  39. @carcamclips on

    This channel feels very much like propaganda. I don’t believe you. You’ve made your choices and it’s too late to bemoan your situation at this point.

  45. @dianadobos1045 on

    Asa este peste tot in lume nu doar in Japonia.
    In căsătorie ambii trebuie sa aibă venituri, sa fie responsabili si sa fie compatibili.
    Nu doar iubirea unește.
    Peste tot in lume exista saracie si probleme economice.
    Nu inteleg de ce nu îți vezi copilul si nu vorbești cu el.
    Un tata responsabil se ocupa de copil